In my parents’ community, people seem have to have married within the same small group of Indian villages for generations. There are definitely benefits of marrying within the community. But personally I find the idea suffocating. I find the idea of cousins marrying both suffocating and incestuous. Yet I can understand how, if it’s something you’ve grown up with, you might accept it as a legitimate part of your culture. I can also understand ethnic communities’ needs to hold on to their traditions. But when following tradition is far more likely to make your children suffer, surely you should reconsider?